While Part 1 on this topic was more philosophical, dealing with how we think about the topic of homosexuality, Part 2 will be devoted to practical application. As a Christian parent, you can prepare your teen, so when situations come up, they can respond in a thoughtful, compassionate way.
Treating People Indiscriminately
In keeping with Christ’s example, it’s never acceptable to treat a person unkindly simply because of that person’s sexual orientation or other life choices. (The argument of whether sexuality involves choice may not be a topic on which you agree, but that issue is immaterial as far as how you interact with the person.)
Applying the Golden Rule, among other things, means that you need to interact with people as individuals instead of letting preconceived ideas about those in certain demographics color your view; after all, you don’t want them assuming that because you are a Christian, you’re the type that harshly condemns them.
Interacting graciously with a homosexual classmate or coworker may earn a person criticism from some Christian peers, but we can take comfort in the fact that Jesus Christ did not seem concerned with the judgment He received for interacting with “undesirables” of His day.
Answering Questions When Asked
Aggressively presenting the gospel is one thing; voluntarily stating the biblical position against various sins will likely earn a person enemies and hamper one’s ability to be given a fair hearing. At the same time, there will be times when a person’s own sexual purity or identification as a Christian will probably elicit questions such as, “So what does your Bible say about so-and-so’s lifestyle?” As some have put it, “them are fightin’ words.”
Following Christ’s example, answering such questions with a question may be the best route to take. “Do you know what it says about heterosexual sex outside of marriage?” or “Did you know that those guilty of breaking only one commandment are just as guilty as those who break them all?” might be a good lead-in to presenting the gospel. For times when people show a true interest in biblical position, being well-versed in the topic is a good idea. Unlike what some would say, the only book that mentions homosexuality is not Leviticus!
Carefully Considering Public Commentary
Whether it’s on social media sites or in front of a class, it seems that one negative comment about homosexuality can mar a person’s reputation and potential for influence for life. If you come across as a “hater,” you may lose valuable opportunities to witness. There’s a fine line between being a bold and unashamed witness for Christ (Proverbs 28:1) and being seen as blameless (1 Timothy 3:2). Regardless of how a person votes in regards to the redefinition of marriage, becoming known for a negative position does not seem to be best.
As you help your teen consider the ways in which a biblical position on homosexuality should be discussed, the main aim needs to be God’s glory coupled with the redemption of needy people; everything else is secondary to those two aims.