Communicating with Your Teen: Why Learning Styles Matter, Part 2

In Part 1, we explored the auditory learning style, and now we’ll pick up with the kinesthetic and visual learner. Appealing to Kinesthetic Learners Have you ever accused your kid of having “ants in your pants,” or do you often find him fidgeting or doodling? You probably have a kinesthetic learner on your hands. The […]

Discussing Depression and Suicide with Your Teen, Part 2

Hopefully, I’ve at least convinced you (see Part 1) to discuss these hard topics with your teen. Now what? What should you say? Before you change your mind or flippantly speak your mind, make sure to keep your audience and your main purpose in view: Your child is at risk for the same kind of […]

Parents, Be Aware: Invisible but Dangerous Online Activities

While many mock alarmist moms and media, most sensible parents realize that there are dangers lurking online that can strongly impact their teens’ innocence, reputation, and safety. Many savvy moms and dads check phones for intimate texting (a.k.a. sexting) and adding kids as a Facebook friend — or even requiring access to all social media […]

Discussing Depression and Suicide with Your Teen, Part 1

In the wake of the tragic suicide of comedian Robin Williams, the blogosphere and social networking sites are all abuzz. And for every post, comment, or opinion, there are plenty of opposing views, even (or especially?) among Christians. When these kinds of high-profile conversations arise, it’s extremely important that you discuss them with your teen, […]

Beyond “Because I Said So” (Part 3)

Teens have different needs than younger children, so parenting them means making some transitions. In addition to offering explanations for how you’ve made decisions (Part 1) and fielding their questions (Part 2), it’s important that you provide guided experiences and give constructive feedback. This pattern will help set the stage for your role as mentor, […]

Beyond “Because I Said So” (Part 2)

As you transition (read Part 1) from being caregiver for a child to mentoring your teen, you will benefit from starting with a plan for times of offering explanations, fielding questions, providing guided experiences, and giving constructive feedback. It’s important to plan ahead for communication during times of non-conflict in order to effectively instruct and […]

Beyond “Because I Said So” (Part 1)

While young children are sometimes incapable of understanding the reasoning behind parental limits or expectations, teens are capable of higher-order thinking. Perhaps more significant than their mental capacity to understand and assess risks and participate in the decision-making process is the fact that they need to be taught how to make wise choices, since they […]

What You’re Saying When You Won’t Say the “S-Word”

Have you talked to your kids about sex? Maybe you have, but not in so many words. I’ve heard sermons about “going over the edge,” “knowing someone intimately,” and even “pleasuring one another.” Whenever the “s-word” comes up, adults tend to blush. Kids, not so much. Whether you’re ignoring the topic altogether or simply using […]

Social Networking: In Person

The importance of social networking has always been a part of high school. Recent generations have turned to the internet and sites like Facebook and MySpace to accomplish this task. One of the many problems associated with online social networking for teenagers is that of public exclusion. Thanks to these types of sites, it is […]

Communicating with Your Teen: Why Learning Styles Matter, Part 1

I’ll never forget the time one of my authorities (falsely) accused me of being rebellious. She had just rattled off a stream of qualifications for how I was supposed to present a request. The timing was mind-boggling, at least to me. I think I had to turn in a form the morning of the last […]