Parenting tough teens can be exhausting, and depending on your personality, it can take every ounce of energy. In fact, your personality will determine the timing of the decision of placing your son/daughter into a boarding school. You must enter into the situation positively.
When I speak with parents who are afraid of telling their student about placement, I recommend that they tell their son/daughter (suggestively) during the time leading up to placement. Be honest! It seems that every time I have difficulty coming up with the right words to tell someone when it is a hard matter, I pray, and God, inevitably, says to tell them the truth and to do so in love. Do not threaten; if you have threatened your son/daughter about placing them in a boarding school, then you’ll need to begin telling them that time is running out.
Will they hate you? No, the vast majority of the students at a boarding school cannot wait to talk to mom and dad. I recently talked with a young lady who was here because she had a relationship with someone over 18 whom she was going to marry. When she was enrolled, she was dead set on doing what she had to in order to get through, and she was very intent on still marrying this man. Now, she has stated her relationship with this man has ended, and she is getting along well with her parents.
Don’t act in fear, act in faith.